I went for a third opinion today, May 6th. This doctor came recommended by numerous people.

 He looked over my info, then read the MRI on paper. They had me take off my top layers and he did an exam, moving my arm/shoulder this way and that.He asked if I had tried PT and I said no, he seemed to think it was worth a shot. I explained that I have been reading and most people that try end up having the surgery anyway. PT wont repair the tear, my lifestyle and comfort area lready compromised. He seemed to understand.

He asked if I had an xray, I said no because I forgot I did at the 1st Dr. (I hope Insurance doesnt get me!) He said it looked ok but he wants a other ind of MRI, the one where they inject dye so that he can really see whats going on, how far the tear is and  if theres other things going on. He doesnt want to go into surgery blind.